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Jennifer Love Hewitt, whose womanly allure has been well chronicled, is no slouch in the dating department. She's been linked to hotties near and far, including talk show hosts Craig Ferguson [Yum. -Ed.], and Carson Daly, teen heartthrobs Joey Lawrence and Wilmer Valderrama, rising stars Patrick Wilson and Kip Pardue, singers John Mayer and LFO's Rich Cronin, and last, but certainly not least, Ross McCall (her now-fiance). So it's no surprise that Jennifer was asked to contribute to Esquire's regular recurring feature "Ten Things You Don't Know About Women," in which well-known ladies offer up advice on how to deal with the fairer sex. Looking at Jennifer's column, we wondered: Which one of the men mentioned above inspired her advice or earned her ire? Our guesses, after the jump.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #1: "PMS is not a lame excuse to be able to yell at you. It's a great excuse."
Who It's About: John Mayer. Wouldn't you want an excuse to yell at him, too?
Thing You Don't Know About Women #2: "We really can pump our own gas. It's just that we've got this fantasy of you as a '30s-era full-service station attendant. You'd look so cute in the hat."
Who It's About: Patrick Wilson. He would look cute in any hat. Or without any hat. Or without any clothes...
Thing You Don't Know About Women #3: "We're not complimented when you call your ex a slut. She dated you, too. So what are we?"
Who It's About: Carson Daly. He was engaged to Tara Reid. Nuff said!
Thing You Don't Know About Women #4: "We're smart enough to know that smell is always the dog."
Who It's About: Craig Ferguson. He looks gassy.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #5: "Yes, we can dish it out."
Who It's About: Wilmer Valderrama. He was probably skeezing on other starlets all the time (see Lohan, Lindsay; Moore, Mandy) and deserved a stern talking to.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #6: "No, we can't take it."
Who It's About: Wilmer again. Bet he has a sass mouth.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #7: "We want to raise children. We just don't want you to be one of them."
Who It's About: LFO's Rich Cronin, solely because he was behind the lyrics: "New Kids On The Block, had a bunch of hits/ Chinese food makes me sick." Those had to be written by someone with the mentality of a seven year old.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #8: Women are meant to talk and men to listen. We don't want to be fixed; we want to be heard.
Who It's About: Kip Pardue. The insouciant smirk always plastered to his face makes us think he wouldn't be the best listener.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #9: "When we ask if you've had any work done, it's because we want to know what our kids will really look like."
Who It's About: Carson Daly. Have you seen his face recently? He looks like an entirely different person.
Thing You Don't Know About Women #10: "When we ask you how we look, it's okay to lie; when we ask you how she looks, you better lie."
Who It's About: Ross McCall. This is advice he should keep with him for the future.
Jennifer Love Hewitt: 10 Things You Don't Know About Women [Esquire]
Jennifer Love Hewitt [Who's Dated Who]
Earlier: The Esquire Map To...Minnie Driver's Dating Life

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I won't lie to you, a day didn't go by that I wasn't thinking about suicide. It was merely a self indulgent dream however; I never really planned to kill myself. I knew I couldn't. I was needed here and I knew that. Still I liked to toy with the idea of ceasing to exist. It made me feel better.
My thoughts were not always so...Gothic. I was happy once. I was happy for about fifteen years actually. I had a great life. I wasn't rich, but I wasn't poor either. Best of all I had found the love of my life and he had married me. There isn't one thing I don't love about him.
So, how did I end up here...neither in Heaven nor Hell? The truth is this; Heaven wouldn't have me for even the Lord above could not mend my broken heart and Hell had no use for me for the Devil could not torture me more than I already was. When I died my soul had nowhere to go and no one to turn too. I became...no I am... stuck forever between life and death.
I was well loved and liked by everyone. I believed if you loved someone than nothing else mattered as long as they knew and you showed them how much you cared...I was wrong. I found that just because you love someone it doesn't mean they necessarily love you back the same way. That's not to say however that they do not love or care about you at all. No, they love the fact you love them; they just don't feel the same way.
I was happy once....then my husband...my beloved husband....sat me down one day and told me he loved me but he loved another woman as well. He told me he was confused. He told me how he had become involved with this other woman and how he loved her too. He told me he needed time to think. Then he asked me to understand and then he asked me if I would wait on him. I said yes. I said I understood; although that was not entirely true. How was I to understand, I wasn't confused. I had no doubts. Out of all the people in the world I loved him and him alone. For me there could never be another.
He told me I had been the best wife ever and he told me he loved the way I looked at him so lovingly. He told me he loved how much I loved him. Then he told me how pretty I was. Then he told me he wasn't sure he wanted to be with me anymore.
What was I to say? What was I to do? The man I loved more than anything in the world didn't want me anymore.
I lowered my head to hide my pain and I told him it was ok that I understood. As he was leaving he turned to me begging me not to give up on him. "Wait on me!' he said as he walked out the door.
What else could I do. I know what your thinking...you're thinking I could have moved on. Really I couldn't though...like I said I love him...I love everything about him...even when it hurts.
Days turned into weeks then weeks turned into months then months turned into years. He never did come back to me. I waited. I waited in the house he had picked out for me so many years ago. The house we were suppose to grow old together in. I kept it the same much like a mother who refuses to remodel the room of a deceased child.
Every car that would near the house would draw me to the window were I would peer out forever hoping it was him. It never was.
He ended up leaving the woman he had left me for. He never returned to me however...he feel in love with a third woman whom he married and they grew old together.
I never stopped hoping though that one day he would love me as much as I loved him. The day after they sealed him up in his crypt I stopped by the graveyard to plant orange marigolds around him. When I planted the last one along the entrance to his crypt my heart stopped beating and I feel over and died.
I don't know what happened to my body; when they found me nobody knew who I was. His crypt is my home now. I watch over his body and care for it as I did when I was alive. I still love him...and I always will...a part of me feels happiness because I am with him at last.
I seek out the few who know what true love is. The ones that suffer as I do, I wrap in my ghostly arms and hold them as I once wished someone would hold me.

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Introduction: The primary meaning of the word "love" in Scripture is a "purposeful commitment to sacrificial action for another." In the Bible it is a fact that loving God is equated with obeying His Word. The two are inseparable.
          In our day, most define love as some type of feeling. We "fall in love," or two people meet and it is "love at first sight." But the world's love is a selfish matter. If you are attractive to me, be nice to me, meet my needs and love me I in return will "love" you. The world's love is based on getting something from some else. The world does not give love where is does not benefit themselves. If you do not please me then I have no love for you. Thus for the world love must be earned by making someone else feel good.
          Powerful emotions may accompany love, but it is the commitment of the will that holds true biblical love steadfast and unchanging. Emotions may change, but a commitment to love in a biblical manner endures and is the hallmark of a disciple of Christ. Sadly, the opposite is also true.
          Emotions will vary, but a commitment which has its basis in biblical love will not be affected by the whelm of emotion or of one's circumstances.
          Our example of true love is shown in God's love for the sinner. Romans 5:8 says ". . .commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." The lost sinner living in rebellion and sin is still loved by the Lord. He loved us enough to die for us and pay our sin debt while we were sinning against Him. This shows that true biblical love is a matter of will....not of emotion. God choose to love us and His love was not based on our meriting it in any way.
           1 John 4:8 tells us that ". . . God is love."
           The Apostle Paul's discourse in 1 Corinthians 13:1-8, addresses the true righteousness of those who profess Jesus Christ.
           "Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth. . . " (1 Cor. 13:4-8a)
          God is telling us that "charity" which is true biblical "love" does not fail. Relationships based on emotion fail, but those based on the tenants of true biblical love NEVER fail.
           Let us define love so we will know what it is truly. When we used the word love it will brings different meanings to different people. Our King James Bibles often translate the word "agape" as "charity." I recently heard a pastor in his message made the statement with a critical tone, "I never understood why the King James translators us "charity" instead of just "love." Let me explain why. The Bible expresses three different kinds of love.
1. "Agapao" This word is a verb used to describe God's divine love. The noun is "apape." Example is John 3:16, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." (John 3:16) This is the action of totally being committed to the well being of others without regard for their worthiness even unto death. That love was demonstrated by Jesus when He suffered and died for our sins. We, as Christians, are show that unselfish love to others.
2. "Phileo" This word translated "love" refers to fervent love for another person. Jesus when challenging Peter in John 21:15-17 asked do you agape me more than the other disciples. Peter replied, "Yea, Lord; thou knowest that I love (phileo) thee" This was his response four times to Jesus' questions. Peter never used the word "agapeo" in response to Jesus' questions.
3. "Eros" This is a noun and refers to sexual love.
          The King James translators used the English word "charity" because one cannot mistake the kind of love being mentioned. Note the definition of the word "charity" which shows the wisdom of the translators. Apapeo love is charity.
1: benevolent goodwill toward or love of humanity.
2a : generosity and helpfulness especially toward the needy or suffering; also : aid given to those in need.
b : an institution engaged in relief of the poor. 
c : public provision for the relief of the needy.
(Merriam Webster Dictionary, http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/charity)
          In our text verse John gives a straight forward test of true conversion. He begins by saying, "Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God."
          In verse 10 God tells us that those that live in unrighteousness are noted also in that they do not love their brother.
          Verse 11, refers to the text of this message when Jesus said the second greatest commandment was to love one's neighbor as themselves.
          In verse 12 is uses Cain as an example. Cain killed his brother because his on works were evil and his brother's works righteous. Cain had no love for his brother, and the basis of his hatred for his brother was that his brother did right and it incited him to murder.
          In verse 13, John offers comfort to the true child of God who are the object of scorn, ridicule and the unloving abuses. He in verse 14, offers assurance to those who are hurting under the unloving attacks of the worldly.
"We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death." This verse plainly states the change that occurs when a person receives Christ. Because the Spirit of God is in them...they are able to without condition love others. This is evidence of true salvation when a person's love for others becomes unselfish.
          Verse 16, states the greatest manifestation of the love the world can know....that Christ laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren." He concludes with Verse 18.
   Today many churches promote a "feel good" religion. It is meant to appeal to emotions. This has had the effect of turning people on to emotion and feeling instead of true spiritual biblical love and commitment. Many today are motivated by emotion rather than being motivated by a commitment to the Lord.
          The Bible says we are to grow by the knowledge of the Word of God, not by religious experiences or feelings. Never in any of the Epistles does the New Testament tell us to seek emotional experiences and be guided by feelings. This is an important truth that is being ignored.
           The reason so many are in false doctrine and weak in faith and service to God, and are immature... is because they do not honestly know what the Bible teaches about Biblical love and commitment to Christ or they know and refuse to life in love as the Lord instructs. Their relationship with the Lord is based on how they feel rather than on the promises of God's Word. The same is true in their relationships in their marriages, with their children, family and friends. They evaluate their relationship based on the selfish idea that others should make them feel good and if they do not they are not loved or have the right to withhold love towards others. ILLUS: When I first came to Tremonton, Utah I met a woman who was offended because I would not allow contemporary So-Called Christian Music in our church. She told me in glowing terms how she listened to a Christian Rock Station and the song so helped her get through the day. My friend....think for a moment about what she was saying? She got through the day by hearing a commercial singer, repeating phrases over and over to a strong rhythmic beat and that this helped her spiritually. By the way...the Buddhists, Oriental mystics and many other pagan religious do the same thing. The use music with a strong rhythmic beat to whip the people often into a frenzy.
           This message is not about music and certainly music has a part our lives. God gave us music and mentions it numerous times in His word, but He limits the type of music we listen too.
"Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ" (Ephesians 5:19-20)
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord." (Colossians 3:16)
   Please note both verses use the adjective, "spiritual" which limits the kind of music God is saying He approves. In fact lost people also find great pleasure in listening to hard ungodly rock music that has the same beat and rhythm. But my friend....does God tell us to be comforted and get through the day by being emotionally charged up or are we to live moment by moment following and trusting in the principles of God's word?
           People can actually become "music junkies" having to have music playing all day. However, the true healing comfort to get us through life's trials can only come from God and through His word speaks to us spiritual in the small quiet voice in our souls.
           God says, Psalms 27:1 "The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?"
          Read with me 2 Corinthians 4:8-21. What a wonderful passage this is. Did you notice what verse 13 says, "We having the same spirit of faith, according as it is written, I believed." Our faith, our hope, our love is based in ONE thing...the Word of God.
          This is a long introduction, but let us now look then at the Meaning of Biblical Love:
I. ALL OF GODS'S DIRECTIVES FOR LIVING ARE BASED ON LOVING GOD AND LOVING OTHERS IN A BIBLICAL MANNER.
A. Jesus said, "And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.' This is the first commandment." (Mark 12:30)
B. Jesus' second commandment:
"And the second, like it, is this: `You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no other commandment greater than these." (Mark 12:31)
This truth is found also in God's instructions to Israel "Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself: I am the LORD." (Leviticus 19:18) The Hebrew word is "raheb", but it means to have affection for one's brother or friend. Its parallel in the New Testament is "phileo.
C. Note that Jesus said this was a commandment. A Christian will never truly love their neighbor until they first learn to love God. Love is a part of the natural result of loving God is you love your neighbor. When God saves us we are indwelled by the Holy Spirit who gives us the new nature of God which can now truly unselfishly love.
1. Biblical love is defined by God in His Grace. Grace is "unmerited favor."
2. It is further defined in the word "agape" that is translated in to the English word "love." The word expresses the highest form of love which is the love of God for mankind. This love is one that is freely given because one wills to give it. It is not based on any merit of the individual.
3. True biblical love can only be known by the actions that it prompts. It is not the love of complacency or affection, that is not drawn out by any excellency in it objects (Vines. p382).
ILLUS: If you ask most any church member or profession Christian if they loved the Lord, they would say....certainly! Yet, the faithfulness and obedience of the individual to the Lord shows if their love for God truly exists or is simply rhetoric.
4. Perfect love is seen the Lord Jesus Christ. In the Garden of Gethsemane Christ agonized over what he would be enduring within hours as He suffered for the sins of all the world. Yet, he said "Not my will, but thine be done." Only a pure love could suffer for the world, fully knowing that most of the world would reject Christ's sacrifice for them. Love produces action...and if love is present it will be seen.
5. True love will produce sacrifice for the one who is loved. That is why today, some many live uncommitted lives. They are hot one minute and ice cold the next. True biblical love produces stability in one's life.
ILLUS: I was talking with a good friend who pastors a church in North Carolina. As we ended the conversation he said, "Brother Cooper would you pray with me about my church." He then said he had been at the church for almost twenty years. The church was doing well financially and in attendance ..but he said we are the epitome of the Laodicean church. His church was neither hot or cold....basically was only existing doing little or nothing for the Lord. Folks there is a lack of biblical love in that church. Their faith in that church which resulted in losing their biblical love, commitment and the attitude of sacrificial living for Christ.
6. Love is not the kind of motivation that is whipped up in an emotional message by articulate preacher. Yes, many churches live from week to week getting having to be pumped up by emotional messages each week. That kind of preaching never lasts much past the door of the church. It does not build faith in God in the people. By the time folks get home its over and its back to apathy and being complacent.
           It may be fun to sing catchy choruses, to wave one's arms around in the air and sway to the beat of the music and be charged up emotionally....but that does not produce any lasting spiritual benefit in the life of the participant. It does not produce faith or love of God. When the trial of life comes, and they surely will come upon us all, emotions do not bring comfort. You may turn on you cassette player and listen for a while to anthemic music (a religious chant), and have your spirits emotionally lifted, but the problem of dealing with it is not solved.
ILLUS: During the time I was beginning our church planting work in Tremonton, Utah I visited a husband and wife who attended a short time, but complained they did not like our church singing traditional hymns and not including contemporary "Christian" rock music. She explained to me what a great blessing this particular "Christian" rock singer's music was to her. She said when she got up that morning, somewhat emotionally depressed, she began listening to her favorite CCM rock singer and she said it picked up her spirits. I asked her if listening to some CCM singer, singing rock music is where God's word says we are to get our strength and comfort? "This is my comfort in my affliction: for thy word hath quickened me." (Psalms 119:50) The word "quickened" means to make alive. (Also see Psalm 119:76,82; 2 Thess. 2:17) This couple in the past few years has "church hopped" at least five or six times and some of the churches they attended used CCM in their services. They cannot seem to be satisfied even with the contemporary highly emotional churches.

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The rain was tropical, otherworldly, completely out of place for New York City in January. It poured down in sheets of cerulean, cascading over the steel of the subway car in hot, foamy waves. The thought of removing my hat and scarf and gloves passed briefly through my mind, but there was a strange comfort in the excessive warmth, in the heat of the blood that rushed to my face.
I was standing alone in the Buhre Avenue station, waiting for the number six train to arrive and bring me downtown, where I would attend a going-away party for friends who would not be coming back, mourning a loss that had not yet occurred.
The Singer children, 15 year-old Alma and her younger brother Bird, had suffered a loss as well, albeit a fictional one: the death of their father from pancreatic cancer. I’d started reading Nicole Krauss’ The History of Love on the plane that brought me back to my hometown.
It had been only two weeks since my return from Europe, a journey that had spanned thirteen countries and eleven months. It was undertaken as a great act of rebellion against the forces that had begun to shape a life I felt uncomfortable living: one in which an endless cycle of work influenced everything from the clothes I wore to what I did on the weekend (which was, inevitably, more work).
In each of those countries, I shed a layer of the person I used to be and became someone far happier. In England, I let go of the person who needed a physical residence to feel safe. In France, I abandoned my fear of slowing down. In Germany, I discarded the notion that friends are people who are just like me and began to seek out those who, instead, enriched my life with their differences.
I didn’t know it yet, but I was playing a game of “What I Am Not;” a game played by the Singer children in which they deny whole rooms, years, weathers. They point to a chair and say, “This is not chair” or to a wall and say, “This is not a wall” or to a sink of dirty dishes and say, “Not dirty dishes,”  just like I had pointed to myself and declared that it wasn’t the same person anymore. Because saying so was the first step.
“If at large gatherings or parties, or around people with whom you feel distant, your hands sometimes hang awkwardly at the ends of your arms – if you find yourself at a loss for what to do with them, overcome with sadness that comes when you recognize the foreignness of your own body – it’s because your hands remember a time when the division between mind and body, brain and heart, what’s inside and what’s outside, was so much less.”
By the time I stepped off the train, the sun had gone down, and I wandered the East Village until it was time for the party. Little lonely trees sprang up out of the ground like bits of coral, and the streetlamps clicked on with a phosphorescent glow. The steady drizzle and early darkness made it difficult to remember that I was a creature of the land.
At the party, I chatted awkwardly with people I’d known for ages, and realized that in my nearly year-long absence, my old friends had made new friends: indeed, some had fallen in love, others had gotten married, and many had moved across the country, as these were about to. I felt disoriented as they laughed over memories that I didn’t share, and when they sang along to the pop songs that were familiar to them, I tried to clap in Krauss’ “language of gestures” that was subtle and complex in my mind, but probably clumsy to watch.
Even my mother tongue had become foreign to me. I spoke the melodic textbook English that was an effective form of communication in Europe, rather than the speedy, slang-filled speech of my native city. I was like Alma who, upon being asked “What’s up” by a friendly boy at school, replies with a bewildered “Finethankyouhowareyou?”– rather than with the simpler, standard “Not much”. It was embarrassing.
So I stayed for one drink more, then said a few hasty goodbyes. I hurried out of the bar and back to the train station, back to my mother’s apartment in the Bronx, back to Alma’s search for human contact and far away from mine.
“Even now, all possible feelings do not yet exist. There are still those that lie beyond our capacity and our imagination. From time to time, when a piece of music no one has ever written, or a painting no one has ever painted, or something else impossible to predict, fathom, or yet describe takes place, a new feeling enters the world. And then, for the millionth time in the history of feeling, the heart surges, and absorbs the impact.”
Days later I was scrambling around the Financial District, lost and late for a lunch appointment, when I passed 31 Chambers Street. It’s a beautiful building, dove gray in the Beaux Arts style, with a three-story colonnade and the kind of baroque theatricality that belongs more readily in Paris than it does in New York.  I remembered the passage I’d read earlier, of Alma’s exchange with a clerk at this very address. She was searching the City Municipal Archives for records on the life and death of the woman she knew to be her namesake: Alma Mereminski, the main character and inspiration behind her parents’ favorite book, also called The History of Love. Young Alma sat reading ancient newspaper articles on microfiche for hours, distressed yet determined, until the attending clerk finally suggested that a death certificate would be at the New York City Department of Health, in the Division of Vital Records. Alma’s first and only thought was: “Great.”
It wasn’t until I was standing in front of the building itself that I realized her response wasn’t a sarcastic one; in fact it was quite the opposite: positive and strangely life-affirming in a situation that might otherwise have been frustratingly depressing. For months she’d been searching for a way to make her mother happy again, a way to understand her suddenly, mysteriously religious brother, a way to reconcile the family she used to have with the one they’ve become, and she believed heartily that finding the original Alma would do it. Yet it is this small exchange between her and a stranger that produces the “Aha” moment: a brief yet powerful declaration that despite such profound change, things could – and would – be “great.”
I considered this as I went through the motions of my meeting. Although neither my lunch mate nor my Cobb salad inspired much insight, I felt curiously hopeful. It was as though I had finally surfaced for air after many weeks as a bottom-dweller.
Later, after getting on the subway at Brooklyn Bridge-City Hall (which is either the very first or the very last stop, depending on the direction the train is going), I made it a point to sit at the end of the car, in one of the slim two-seater benches that are typically left unshared unless it happens to be rush hour. It seemed important to be alone with my thoughts.
But despite the early hour, the train became crowded as we crossed into Harlem. A woman in her 60s, laden with packages, sat down next me and I scooted to make room. She was silent for a long while, until she said, “It’s cold on this train.”
Then she looked at me expectantly, so I told her, “I think they have the air conditioning on,” which seemed to be a worthy enough response for her to launch into a description of the car she had recently sold, the job she had just come from, and the boyfriend she was going home to.
And she either didn’t notice or didn’t care that I had little to say in return: she seemed happy enough with my tacit agreement and acknowledging smile. My stop approached and quickly came, so I thanked her for the lovely conversation and wished her a nice day. The woman called out, “Bye honey!” before whipping a small book out of her handbag that she buried her nose into. Our encounter couldn’t have lasted longer than a few minutes, but I felt reenergized by her particular brand of New York City kindness: swift instances of cheerful warmth or sunny compassion, with an equally speedy return to poker-faced normalcy.
On the short walk home, I reflected on Alma’s pain and my own, and our parallel realizations that just a bit of bravery is required to attain this important recognition of both one’s self and the other: that circumstances might change, but we’re certainly never alone. Then, turning the key in the door, I thought that just as Krauss wrote, my heart too, can absorb the impact.

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